You keep saying that the South was trying to destroy the Union. Why can’t you just admit that they weren’t trying to destroy the Union so much as trying to leave it? Is it really so hard to admit that the Union could have continued on without the South?
If southern (confederate) leaders had had even an ounce of decency they would have negotiated their way out of the union instead of cut~n~running the way that they did.
They showed that they didn’t give a hoot about anyone - even their own citizens that they put into peril.
How could the union ever have peace with such dispicable neighbors?