interesting point you make. It reminds me of a relationship seminar my husband and I recently attended in which they said according to recent research that 'stonewalling' (which men typically do and get in trouble for--by their usually more animated wife in an argument or discussion-- is found to be a self calming action. So basically many men 'stonewall' to calm themselves during a fight. This was helpful to understand as it usually annoys me when someone retreats or sits calmly while I 'animate' LOL.
But I have more empathy realizing it is not a power play or an act of disrespect. Often it is just someone trying to get calm or remain calm in a conflictual situation.
>>But I have more empathy realizing it is not a power play or an act of disrespect. Often it is just someone trying to get calm or remain calm in a conflictual situation.<<
Exactly. It was not “stonewalling” in my case. BTW, I’ve been through a course called “Learning to live, learning to love” at my old church. It was teaching some VERY dangerous stuff. I told my pastor there that one of these days they were gonna get sued over it by the person that was willing to take such action.