I’ve noticed this with children and the last twenty years of non/guilt parenting. Don’t tell 14 year old Junior to shower b/c it might hurt his self esteem.
My hubby’s seven year old child did not know how to bathe himself and just stood in the shower playing with the drain and using zero soap.
Parents don’t teach their children hygiene, manners, proper behaviour anymore. They let the CHILD rule the roost; especially in divorce situations where the children are PITIED instead of being held to expectations (prime example OBAMA)