I could not choose this behavior because at the most fundamental level it makes absolutely no sense to me whatsoever and is aberrant and abnormal. I am ok with the behavior so long as I don’t think about or have it shoved in my face.
So when someone asks you if it is a lifestyle choice ask yourself if you could choose it. Strangely lesbians don’t bother me probably because I am hardwired to understand their attraction to women.
It's called 'cognitive dissonance'. Look it up.
Most gays now have got the message left for them at the bathhouse desk by Lambda Legal, which is the "essentialist" message Lambda's been pushing for 30 years. Gay = Negro, you see. "I am ..... a Man! ...." and all that.
But a lot of gays haven't read their messages yet, and there's still a lot of "fluid sexuality"/"sexual continuum" garbage out there, mostly in the literary (i.e. gay-porn) community, and among pederasts who are busy replenishing gay ranks by "turning" tweenaged and teenaged boys.
They put great store by getting to boys before the girls do, since boys tend to be sexualized by their first experiences. So while pederasts aren't psychologically similar to pedophiles per se, nevertheless there's a strong incentive among pederasts to seek out adolescents and "intercept" them before they have their first heterosexual experiences.
Of course, talking about this aspect of homosexuality -- "where do gays come from?" -- is absolutely anathema to the gay legal and political-propaganda community.
And therefore to the captive MSM as well, from which I suspect large numbers of non-"gay-friendly" journalists have been quietly expelled over the last 40 years, as witness the happy reflection by a New York Times editor that as many as 3/4's of his colleagues editing Page One of the NYT are sexual deviants like himself.