I would look awful funny in her shoes - starting with my refusal to accept the bonus she took. As for judging, we do it everyday, all of us, and with all due respect to your mother, she got that one wrong.
I am not a believer of moral equivalency.
My mother didn’t teach me moral equivalancy...just to try to understand what the other person is going through before I judge them.
Are you always this irritating? Do you have any friends? lol