The idea of “being a homosexual,” as in “sexual orientation” as an unchangeable factor in a person’s makeup, is quite recent, probably less than 100 years old.
All cultures have recognized the existence of the “effeminate man,” usually with something between amusement and contempt. But the idea of a reasonably masculine man being “a homosexual” is novel.
Most cultures assume most men are on some level bisexual to some extent. In many, if not most, it’s not the gender of one’s partner that is of moral or honor concern, it’s the “role” one plays. The dominant “masculine” role is honorable, the receptive “feminine” role is not.
The Greeks, for instance, assumed upper-class boys would go thru a phase as “the beloved” of a considerably older man, then get married and have children, and then get into relationships with one or more “beloveds” of their own, while still continuing the domestic relationship with the wife.
But the Greek attitude towards homosexual acts is far more complicated than either side of today’s dispute generally wants to deal with.
The Greeks, for instance, assumed upper-class boys would go thru a phase as “the beloved” of a considerably older man, then get married and have children, and then get into relationships with one or more “beloveds” of their own...
The practice--or something like it-- continues is Afghanistan, I've heard.
Males are bi-sexual I think. Part of it biologically normal and socially necessary, I suspect. Early in life, a male has to "bond" at some level with another male; this bonding steers the child as he matures into manhood. I don't think fathers can meet all of these needs.
I suspect that during this period the child is vulnerable to influences by homosexuals.
I have several gay friends and have observed the way they interact. Not all, but at least half, seem oddly juvenile, as though stuck in pre- or early adolescence. One later fell in love with love with a woman and lived with her. Ive since lost contact with him, so I can't say if they're still together.
Other gays I know are in apparently stable long term relationships. Of these I've noticed that one appears more feminine and the other more masculine.
A lesbian friend once told my wife: "I was attracted more to the person than the sex."
In sum, all people are bi-, but just as true, all people eventually settle into a gender role.