In additon, I was in the deep south and it was different. Post war was a time when sex got more acceptable out side marriage in some places.
But, if you think the protective quality at universities, in loco parentis, was not doing its job you are wrong. It kept women from being forced via peer pressure and male pressure from making bad decisions.
Our housemother in my dorm waited up for us and eyeballed us as we came in. Drunkeness resulted in expulsion. We had curfew and got campused in dorm if violated. We were forbidden from going to parties in men’s apartments and expulsion was the result if you got caught. We had to give our destination when leaving. Curfew was 10 pm Monday thru Thursday, 12 on Friday and Saturday unless you were a senior and then it was 1 am.
It kept me out of trouble that I know I would have gotten into given my wild child days. I have told my daughters about this and they were downright wistful, wishing they had had that. One was in a coed dorm at Duke by sex,,coed bathroom, a zoo. One was in a girls dorm at Vanderbilt and loved it. The third was in a coed dorm at CU where she was the only one on her hall who graduated what with the drugs and wild goings on.
They escaped it for the most part and all three said they would have loved limits on the people around them as well as themselves.
This is old fashioned but I think better, safer and good for men and women. We wanted to get married for crying out loud and weren’t used up and diseased when we did so.
Even today there are millions of kids doing things right, but there always have been and always will be those who stray
My grandmother lived in a DoD dorm as you describe - grandpa used to walk about twelve miles each way to see her.
Note that I exist.
The dorm rules meant nothing.
Excellent comments, cajungirl!
Tell it!