When your grandmother told you the family legend that you all are descendants of Virginia Dare’s, did she say anything about your Native American ancestors being Welsh-speaking Indians? There were several (unconfirmed) 17th and 18th century accounts of European explorers and settlers running into Welsh-speaking, gray-eyed Indians in North Carolina and thereabouts (presumably descended from Roanoke colonists).
My husband said the first time he went to a family reunion it was like going to a Nazi Youth Camp — all the blue-eyed people and kids. I laughed so hard and thought about it for a minute. Yup, we ALWAYS do — all the guppy-mouthed blue-eyed babies (think Brad Pitt's natural children — we all look like them). Mom used to say it was easy to watch us when we were little — kiss us and stick us to the wall — we'd stay. ;-) Husband has brown eyes, but son's are blue as the sky.