You addressed none of the truth in post 83. Interesting.
There is nothing to address otherwise. While many choose to avoid ugly to protect their as is their right. Others believe and work on the basis that our influence as a parent must outweigh the ugly, and does. As well as the fact, like it or not, there are good teachers and good influences out there too.
That some prefere to beleive that is a lie says more about them than it does us.