I may have had a gay waiter once in France though it may have also been part of his linguistic "schtick" for the foreigners (English is the lingua franca for my committees), but I have thoroughly enjoyed my visits to France.
And even in Paris (twice) I have yet to meet the "rude Frenchman."
If you want to stay out of France I am fine with that -- the fewer Americans who go there the lower the prices for the rest of us. But I hope to return, many times. (And I don't speak French.)
I didn’t say I have never been; I toured the country in a rented Saab 9-5 Turbo back in 2002. It was a trip I thoroughly enjoyed but I just choose not to return. If that benefits you in any way...cool.