I tend to agree with you. I used to like her show and as a matter of fact it was largely due to her that I convinced my wife to stay home with our then infant son instead of working.
She has a lot of personal issues. That said, it isn’t right for anyone to use the “N word”. Saying one group can use it and one cannot based on their skin color is RACISM.
Southerners call each other “redneck” but liberal Yankees better not call us “rednecks”. Same applies to “hillbilly”, “lint head”, “sh*t kicker”, “jar head”.
There are some names you shouldn’t toss around to strangers.