Yep, to a degree, it is their own damn fault, HOWEVER: no way in Hell I don’t open the door for a lady.
No way in Hell I don’t offer to help a lady lift something heavy. No way in Hell...etc....
My kin didn’t teach me to say “thank you” in expectation of a return, they taught me to say “thank you” because it’s the right thing to do.
Well put!