Yeah, people seem to think etiquette is whatever they want it to be, rather than established rules and protocols. Must be a result of our feel-good, anything-goes society. Enough to make Letitia Baldrige cringe.
Yes. Dress respectfully in church and at weddings. Some of the dresses I see in weddings to me are out and out disrespectful to all in attendance. It’s all whatever makes one feel good as you said. A lost art for so many in how to act, behave and dress.