I was in the navy for 21 years, including six months near Baghdad. During basic training, recruits are required to shower in groups. I didn’t have the entertainment of showering with a group of women, so it would be unfair, if gays could join and shower with a group of people of the same sex.
It was inappropriate to discuss my heterosexual sex life “openly” when I was in. Why gays feel the need to serve “openly” is beyond me. Just serve, damnit! I could care less about your sexuality, but care more about protecting your rights and freedoms to be gay wether I agree with it or not. Homosexuals IMO need to stop being used as political tools. Our government uses them more for political purposes to further their own agenda (same as blacks, mexicans, muslims etc...) more than the military disavows them. If it were up to us...well...we could care less in most cases. Just shut up and serve...
You raise one of a number of practical difficulties. How is billeting handled? If Neel & Bob are happily sodomizing each other in their two-male room after hours, then Joe & Jane ought to be able to do the same, right. I commanded a unit with 11 married couples and numerous relationship triangles/quadrangles, etc. and I can assure everybody that adding the romantic element to the combat team does nothing to enhance readiness. The guys who can tell you some REAL stories are the IG & JAG folks who have to handle so many sex related incidents.