“Your boss IS still the biggest stressor AT WORK”
The effects of a contemptuous, demeaning, overbearing spouse causes stress in every aspect of life.
Well then I would say get out. That applies to either situation. If you don’t like where you’re at, leave. I have and am so much happier.
There was a long-term study that examined the effect of marriage on longevity.
Single men, never married, led the shortest lives.
Married women fared better than single men but as a group did not live as long as their husbands.
Married men led the second longest lives.
Single women, never married, lived the longest lives of all.
And then, what if you and your spouse work together? I just blew your mind. Your boss at work could also be your ‘boss’ at home! No place to escape the stress. It’d be like the neutered guys in the Netherlands where the women won’t even let them pee standing up.