Backhoe has lost his best friend and wife of 26 years. (Sad News #454: backhoe has passed away)

Free Dominion and Free Republic ^ | June 17, 2010 | fanfan

[eyedigress]

I’ve read this thread for a couple of days now. The grieving is over-whelming, I know. My prayers hope that you understand and heal soon. It never goes the way we planned. Trust God.

My prayers are with you.

Mike

[Ramius]

Hang in there, Backhoe. God bless. I guess I can’t say it will get better, but it will get further behind. Prayer sent up.

[backhoe]

Just one other thing, FRiends- from yesterday ( Free Dominion uses a "paged" format, so unless you hit each page, it's easy to miss )--

http://www.freedominion.com.pa/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?p=1503597#1503597

 

Thank you, Theresa...

I finally heard from our family doctor this evening- she's been away-- and she promised to light a fire under the hospital ( she used to be the Chief of Staff there ) and get to the bottom of why Miss Emily's body hasn't been released for cremation.

Not that I want to do this--
( Oh, God! Let this cup pass from my lips- I do not want to put my baby child in the cold, dark earth... but I will, for whatever my faults as a Fallen Angel, I keep faith with those who sleep in the dust... )

I pulled Cole, the Golden Puppy, next to me, and cried half the night long, thinking of her, and him, and all that is lost, forever.

It was the first time, since he smelled her dead body, that he rolled over in what I call "the luv slut" pose:



and showed me his belly...

He always did this for her- he trusted her so utterly...

After we put Taffy to sleep- and now, with Emily gone, forever, I think of this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_Ev4r0MKLc

Time, flowing like a river
Time, beckoning me
Who knows when we shall meet again
If ever
But time
Keeps flowing like a river
To the sea
Goodbye my love, Maybe ( gone ) forever
Goodbye my love, The tide waits for me
Who knows when we shall meet again
If ever
But time
Keeps flowing like a river (on and on)
To the sea, to the sea
Till it's gone forever
Gone forever
Gone forevermore
Goodbye my friends, Maybe forever
Goodbye my friends, The stars wait for me
Who knows where we shall meet again
If ever
But time
Keeps flowing like a river (on and on)
To the sea, to the sea
Till it's gone forever
Gone forever
Gone forevermore

---

A personal note? When we lost Taffy, I could never hear this without breaking up.

Miss Emily, who was a Symphony musician in Jacksonville long ago, and who knew all sorts of obscure groups, had never heard of The Alan Parsons Project-- but after hearing "Time," she became a fan.

[mitch5501]

So sorry for your loss FRiend.

No doubt God will bring you through this.

That photo tells me so much about her,what a beautifull picture.

We do not depair as those who have no hope.Your best days with her are still ahead.

[backhoe]

I’ve read this thread for a couple of days now. The grieving is over-whelming, I know. My prayers hope that you understand and heal soon. It never goes the way we planned. Trust God. My prayers are with you. Mike

Mike, thank you very much- I haven't responded much to this thread, partly from the "hurry up & wait!" lunacy that goes along with someone dying and arraignments, and partly because my dumb old head is filled with trying to say something coherent at Free Dominion, even though they have a lot fewer people, it's a handful.

But Zoey, the huge old dog we inherited from Miss Emily's Mom when she died, poked me up early.

She can't hold her water as well as Cole the Golden, and Miss Emily, being a night owl, used to take her out early...

Anyway, the Old Lady poked me awake, and we all headed out...

[eyedigress]

:^)

[backhoe]

Hang in there, Backhoe. God bless. I guess I can’t say it will get better, but it will get further behind. Prayer sent up.

Thank you.

I debated with myself ( there's a good Three Stooges routine somewhere in that... ) whether I should raise this, on a thread dedicated to Miss Emily...but...

Just so you know?

I've done this before, and it doesn't get any easier with repitition-- my Dad, me, and my first wife- 1974-1982:

Miss Emily's first boyfriend actually worked for me and Helen at the old Yellow Frog- one of our stores. They didn't know each other beyond a nod, then.

Life, she's funny...

[backhoe]

Look closely and you’ll notice Dad’s two left fingers are missing- he cut them off in college when he got a little too friendly with a jointer...

[eyedigress]

You’ve got that John Lennon thing going on. Great

[backhoe]

You’ve got that John Lennon thing going on. Great

God, what an era- notice the sideburns?

When Miss Emily & I embarked on her "let's reclaim the upstairs ( been storing all our junk there after getting Cole- he ate stuff when he was little ) and make me a new sewing room" project-- a couple of years ago-- I tossed a ton of clothes that were so outdated, including the two suits I bought for that wedding.

Both... had bellbottoms!

[eyedigress]

I just watched an info time-life just to hear snippets of the ballads. What a time. My sister thought the intermittent wipers were based on the amount of the water on the windshield. Ha!

[backhoe]

I just watched an info time-life just to hear snippets of the ballads. What a time. My sister thought the intermittent wipers were based on the amount of the water on the windshield. Ha!

You know, it's Dicken's "the best of times, the worst of times..."

The era you are formed in seems the "normal," and everything else, later, seems a little cattywampus.

Egyptian art was trying to make its periodic comeback, as was Art Deco...

Turquoise jewelry... freeze-dried houseplants, so you didn't have to water them... you could still sell drug paraphernalia legally if you called it something else...

Tried a simple search for "popular TV shows of the 1970's" and got this: "21 Jump Street Sesame Street Hill Street Blues"

[Captain Peter Blood]

Deepest Sympathies my friend.

[eyedigress]

I guess my point is that time changes rapidly. Your Bell-Bottoms will never be back in vogue. Those things are ridiculous. “Keep on Trucking” may come back, hard to tell. It would be nice if the artists starting embracing relationships again. It could happen.

[backhoe]

I guess my point is that time changes rapidly. Your Bell-Bottoms will never be back in vogue. Those things are ridiculous. “Keep on Trucking” may come back, hard to tell. It would be nice if the artists starting embracing relationships again. It could happen.

Good point- I'm trying to remember some of the other popular sayings from that time, and I'll be danged if I can recall any, besides R. Crumb's.

[PhilDragoo]

You live an epic love. Bless you.

My oldest brother and his wife raised and trained border collies; he came back from running three of them, lay down and was gone.

Praying for you.

[eyedigress]

70’s?

Hawaii 5-0, Starsky and Hutch, Streets of San Francisco, Barnaby Jones, Baa Baa Black Sheep, All in the Family, MASH, Sanford & Son, Chico & the Man, Charlie’s Angels etc.

[eyedigress]

That’s OK. It comes back with a vengeance. :^)

[backhoe]

You live an epic love. Bless you. My oldest brother and his wife raised and trained border collies; he came back from running three of them, lay down and was gone. Praying for you.

Thanks, Phil- the fella that used to take care of our and Miss Lucy's yard in better times stopped by a day or so ago when he saw me in the yard, and we talked of many things...

He's an old country boy who's seen a lot of life, and he had a fellow who worked for him who just dropped dead. On his way to answering his door.

[backhoe]

Deepest Sympathies my friend.

Thank you, neighbor. It's the damnedest thing I think I've run in to, ever.