[ladyvet]

she wasn’t contributing $$$ into the system....getting something for nothing...

Umm, excuse me but....I've worked and then been a stay at home mom to raise our five kids on one income. I may not have contributed $$$ into the system during that time but lots of blood,sweat and tears to raise them to be responsible adults. Marriage is a shared responsibility and if it is decided that one earner will stay at home to raise the kids then she or he is not "getting something for nothing." Sheesh.

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but lots of blood,sweat and tears to raise them to be responsible adults

You, me and every other parent! No points there.

not "getting something for nothing.

Your payoff is 'your responsible adults'. That's not enough?