It wouldnt’ surprise me if she was mislead by the adoption agency, but it is very important to do due dilegence before adopting a child.
Sending him back like that was wrong.
Yep. What she did was obviously the wrong way to handle it. But the underlying problem is that there are a whole lot of those kids that are seriously messed up. Some of them might be saved, but some of them are just never going to have anything approaching a normal life. They're goners.