I’m not much on re-fighting the Civil War reasons etc, but wasn’t Virginia not part of the Southern “slave states” that initially succeeded but instead, succeeded only after the war started?
You, sir, are correct. Virginia was in the second wave of states to secede from the Union. Seven states seceded before Lincoln actually took office in March 1861, but Virginia, Arkansas, Tennessee, and North Carolina did not secede until after the first shots were fired at Ft. Sumter.
An easy way to remember the difference between secede and succeed: None of the states that seceded succeeded. They all ended up back in the Union. :)
Virginia left the Union when Lincoln called for 3 regiments of militia to be raised and used on the Confederacy.