Being a parent is loving a child unconditionally. What would this so-called parent have done had she had given birth to a child born with severe disabilities? Would she have dropped the child off like an unwanted animal? When you have or adopt children it is a commitment for life. There is no return policy with children. We are in a very sad state of affairs.
Sometimes a child is just so disturbed that they have to be institutionalized, and I wouldn’t fault any parent — adoptive or biological — for going that route when it’s really necessary (as it often is, to protect the physical safety of other family members). But the idea of just sticking a severely disturbed adopted kid on a plane to send him back where he came from is simply appalling, and suggests the adoptive parent(s) must be pretty nearly as psychologically messed up as the child.
I do wonder, though, if maybe there isn’t a bit more to the story here. There have been cases, especially with biological rather than adoptive children, where parents have tried repeatedly to get a court to order their dangerously disturbed child into state custody with placement in an institution, and the court has just kept insisting that the child keep living at home and attending “therapy” sessions. If the parents don’t have sufficient insurance or personal funds to cover the cost of institutionalizing the child (usually well into 6 figures per year), they really don’t have any good options. What often ends up happening is that the child severely injures (or kills) a family member or someone else and THEN the state finally agrees to institutionalize the child at state expense.
One of these cases, several years ago in New Jersey, involved a boy of about 12 whose serious behavior problems had started after he was sexually molested by an adult man. As he got bigger and angrier, his parents just couldn’t control him and kept trying to get a court to institutionalize him, as they simply didn’t have the funds or insurance to do that on their own. But the court kept insisting he had to continue living at home with his parents. They apparently pretty much gave up, because one day they were away from home all day, leaving him there (they had a business running bus tours to Atlantic City), and a younger boy came to the door selling something for a sports or scouts fundraiser, and the disturbed boy invited the younger boy in and murdered him.
I just wonder if this woman had tried all the reasonable avenues for moving a child she simply couldn’t handle safely into institutional care, and finally just ended up in total despair and resorted to the stick-him-on-a-plane “solution”.
“What would this so-called parent have done had she had given birth to a child born with severe disabilities? Would she have dropped the child off like an unwanted animal?”
Children with severe disabilities aren’t trying to kill you.
When you have or adopt children it is a commitment for life. There is no return policy with children.”
If your adopted child succeeds in killing you, then I guess there isn’t a commitment for life, as you are dead. In order to solve the second part of your sentence, why don’t you track the lady down, give her a call and say you will adopt the child and raise it for life. Just make sure to check under the kid’s bed every once in a while to see what’s there, and keep an eye out in your kitchen for missing sharp utensils.