This is something I found and have seen quoted elsewhere:
“In fact, how and when the marriage occurred remains a bit murky, a bill of particulars that Ive never quite had the courage to explore. Theres no record of a real wedding, a cake, a ring, a giving away of the bride. No families were in attendance; its not even clear that people back in Kansas were fully informed. Just a small civil ceremony, a justice of the peace. The whole thing seems so fragile ...”
Except for the reference to Kansas, that's a perfect description of my own grandparents' wedding.