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Mama, My FIL died in June 2006 and my MIL is just now fully realizing her loss. I’m probably not explaining this well - but she told me intellectually knows he is gone but emotionally she is just now feeling the full brunt. It’s been very emotional for her, and she is not an emotional person - so it’s been all that much harder to watch. My prayers are with you, you have lost so much but life is still to be lived. Peace Mama.

Gosh, I know that better than most people. In a 38 months period of time, we lost my daughter, brother, hubby, bil, mother, and about 25 other cousins, aunts and uncles. God is still in control and He knows what He is doing when we do not have a clue as to what is going on or why. After some of the deaths, I told someone that I could have had the biggest pity party in the world but I am not a party person and it would only give me headaches. People on FR really helped after the deaths.

God has really blessed me by letting me meet a man who is very important to me. He lost his wife to cancer several years before my hubby died. We have so much in common-faith, values, are both nuts, etc. And he is a conservative!

I stay busy with my genealogy stuff and have really enjoyed doing that. I found a person who married into my family many years ago. I was looking for her ancestors and went back to about 410 and King Clovis, the Riparian of Cologne. I have no idea if there are any descendants living but I thought they might like to have this one day, if there are. Of course, there are so many errors in genealogy sites so I try to find sites which verify my info. Census data helps a lot. Since I have this data, they will have to do the verification. That is only fair!

Mama, My FIL died in June 2006 and my MIL is just now fully realizing her loss. I’m probably not explaining this well - but she told me intellectually knows he is gone but emotionally she is just now feeling the full brunt. It’s been very emotional for her, and she is not an emotional person - so it’s been all that much harder to watch. My prayers are with you, you have lost so much but life is still to be lived. Peace Mama.

It's not unusual for it to be years before it really sinks in. It happened to my mother when my father died, and it happened with me after they each died. For some reason, after I thought I had gotten over it, something triggered the memories and brought it all back. Christmas was really hard a couple years because of that for no reason that I could put my finger on.