[Bad Jack Bauer]

You committed adultery with the guys wife, and then expected him to treat you ‘like a man’? or, at least your definition of what a ‘man’ would do? As a society, we need to rediscover what it means to ‘be a man’.

It was not how I wanted to be treated it was how I believed he should have acted. The way I see it, the only reason to confront a wife's lover is to set things aright. If the guy who has had your wife naked in his arms has already disrespected you by doing so how is grovelling going to elevate his opinion of you. I found it somewhat insulting to be subjected to his tears and pleading.

[LearnsFromMistakes]

Thank you for your amazing honesty and transparency on this very tough issue. I noticed a couple others questioning your comments, your choices. Tough. Since this issue has hit far-too-close-too-home with (probably) too many of us, it can be a hot-button issue.

Again, thanks for being upfront about the emotions and actions in one of the most personal issues for anyone to deal with - the failure/disintegration of their marriage.