I’m 50, been married almost 30 years, raised 4 children, have 6 grandchildren, and am a survivor of both molestation and rape. While my experiences did have a negative effect on my life, it is not a defining issue (because I have refused to allow it to be that). I have never abused drugs (or used them for that matter). I have never abused alcohol (though I do imbibe from time to time). Making and keeping friends was always a problem for me as a child/teenager. I did have anger issues that took me into my mid to late 20’s before I obtained control, but did not result in my doing anything serious. I thank God for having given me the strength to overcome my early life experiences to become who I am today.
God bless you and yours.