[Finny]

... he said that if a new guy could not fit in that he had to go, he pointed out that if the crew turned on you, it was terrible. ...You know what will happen if females become the object of that negative focus ...

And that's only half the equation. Men are pikers compared to women when it comes to dishing out negative focus.

[HiTech RedNeck]

Tell us about it. The most hurtful people I’ve ever known carried around a vagina, not a penis. I think that’s because people expect women to be nurturing, and when they aren’t it is a double trap.