It is very different. Currently, when a gay (male) soldier, airman or Marine is asked "hey, do you have a girlfriend," the mere act of saying "no, but I have a boyfriend" could see them investigated and discharged.
Some here see only two alternatives: gays stay in the closet, or else we'll have rainbow flags and pride parades on-base and gay orgies in the barracks..
Why can't the laws/regulations be: "OK, you won't be discharged merely for being gay" but still subject all service members to the usual restrictions on fraternization, harassment, conformity in dress and appearance, personal decorum, etc?
We are on the same page.
Acting out behavior and aggressive/assaultive behavior is punished now...that’s what I meant. I agree these are not just black and white issues. I could be wrong, but I don’t see a whole lot of gays wearing rainbow flags on their uniforms.
Your final paragraph is stated very well...there may be a lot of gays in the military now also who are conflicted about their sexuality( as in the general society) and are not about to declare themselves.
As for orgies...can you say “Tailhook”?