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Ok - I have two J-A daughters who play violin. I was going to allow all this to swing by and just read to see what everyone had to say. But then someone.... had to go and blast the poor precussionist (of which I was one)who must learn not one instrument but let me see...snare, bass, tim-toms, full set, bells, multiple cymbals, triangle, gong, marachis, wood box, cow bell, jingle bell, .... whew I’ll leave off and swing over to address another topic.

Yes it is a prestige thing I’ve noticed - all of the orchestra kids seem to look down on the band kids for some reason at the girls’ school, though mine know better or at least know better than to do it in front of me. Even the teachers are into it having heard several exchanges putting one or the other down - in front of the kids.

I also think that some of it is mouth shape. There is something to be said about how ones mouth is formed as to which instrument is a better fit - trumpet/coronet vs flute vs wood wind.

The Mrs. is extremely hard on them as they not only need to keep up on their school + any clubs, music, sport; but also stay up on their Japanese. I attempt to temper that with - yes they must keep your grades up, but I still expect them to have at least some time to be a kid.(I’m worried about the coming mutiny so trying to keep my options open for a reprieve from either side).

My girls are doing great in school - but I’m terrified of what it will all mean when it comes time to apply for colleges. I was always taught work hard, learn everything you can and it will lead you to better things. Unfortunately, I’m not sure I believe any of that myself anymore as the PC culture has destroyed my sense of trust and made me a very cynical fellow....and that’s just sad.

Like all parents I worry for mine. I just ask that they are provided the same opportunity as everyone else and be judged on their abilities rather than what they are or who they know.

Oh - and don’t forget to beat the drums slowly. (sorry I’m such a windbag)