After twenty years of service and another eleven in support of the service...I’ve come to agree on DADT. In fact, there could be one or two slight changes and it’d probably satisfy everyone and fix all problems. Note, you have jealous lovers who now run...dump evidence on a guy who kept his mouth shut...and the jealous lover screws over the guy. It would fix this issue if the rule was to discount and throw out jealous lover report unless it involved an actual security violation or such.
The truth is...the less you have guys talking about their normal or irregular sexual practices...the better off you are. It makes no sense for anyone to have to stand there and listen to some guy go into great detail about comparing his lady lover over his current wife.