No my children struggle and my youngest has a serious bone marrow disease - maybe that is why I worry about this - from the other side — I am in tune and couldn’t be with other serious responsibilites.
Would it have been any different had you chosen a different stay-at-home-versus-career path? I don't know which way you chose, and either way, I'm sure you chose properly and with the best conscience.
Here's the thing: a stay-at-home mom is every bit as equipped and capable of raising very seriously screwed-up kids as a working mom. Always has been, always will be. "Stay at home" moms on the farms, or on the frontier, had more work to do -- sewing, washing, mending, making their own soap, canning, gardening, etc. etc. etc. -- than most women employed full-time today outside the home.
This "stay at home" mom thing is completely a faddish trend of the last 60 years; it is not and has never been a "condition" of motherhood, and blaming such a relatively modern thing borne of the excess of conveniences for the timeless, perennial condition of domineering women creating wimpy men, is highly misguided.