You are NOT harming her by not letting her have FB.
What a crock. That’s just a manipulation technique.
My kids were all at LEAST 15 or 16 before they were allowed to have something like that. My youngest is now 17 and she uses it to keep in touch with out of town friends, but doesn’t live on it by any means.
I think that it’s easier for kids to fight when it’s protected from a face to face confrontation.
I also think that there is a real danger of kids not learning how to socialize in person anymore. We’re becoming too isolated and impersonal in our culture because everyone is plugged in nowadays and our communication is now cell phones and computers instead of sitting down together and actually talking. People retreat into their own private world and shut others out with their iPods and MP3 players.
If our family lived close by my daughter would not have a FB. That is the ONLY reason she is allowed to have one. You are not harming her and I was very calculated in my decision to let my daughter get an account. You have to do what is right for your family. I would tell them to mind their own business!