“This isn’t about drunks”
Stand over your dead aunt’s grave and tell her that.
When reason and logic elude you, go for the emotional gut shot. “Personalize it”, as Alinsky would say. The fact that you think using my aunt’s death as a weapon against me instead of dealing with my point speaks volumes about your argument.
And for the record, I don’t have to say anything to my aunt. Your 2 am broken-taillight/expired insurance/past due inspection/DUI checkpoint-shakedown would have done nothing to save her.
Totally inappropriate comment. Do the right thing and apologize.