Sorry but I have to disagree. Parents these days refuse to accept blame that their little darlings do anything wrong. I raised 4 sons and dealt with lots of parents. I knew just when my sons did something wrong & they would tell me. I would find out any way, lol. If I felt my sons were right I would back them 100%. If they lied then they faced the consequences. But I learned when the parents showed up it was usually to scream that it was my son's faults etc. Never their innocent angels. My sons were taught to fight & if anyone came within their personal space & hit them, then they were to hit back. My youngest son was quite the fighter in his last 2 yrs of school. However he never started fights.
Girls can be quite horrid too. My oldest daughter was attacked by a cheerleader & her little gang. Risa had taken kick boxing & she cleaned their clocks. She was suspended but we didn't care. Being able to defend yourself starts IMHO as a child. My children were taught how.
Sorry but I have to disagree. Parents these days refuse to accept blame that their little darlings do anything wrong.
Well, you disagree, but from direct experience, of my own, on both ends of it, the parents are the last to know. Now, they may suspect something and see something is not right, but that doesn't tell them what it is.
The fact of the matter is that the kids kept things from their parents 50 years ago (and I know this from myself and other kids, too). You'll never convince me that parents really "know" what is going on... LOL..
And today, having been involved in it from being somewhat conversant with what soe youngsters do (with me not having any parental authority over some that I've been acquainted with), I also know that they get away with a lot that their parents never know.
If you say there are parents who "know" what their kids are doing, I'll come up with 50 who don't know and although they may suspect, they just don't "have a clue"... :-)