That’s nice. And very rare. For you to have adapted your model of the world on a thread like this ...
Truth is that ‘gay’ sex is by its very nature dehumanizing and tends to be physically abusive. That shows in the way they talk to themselves when they are among themselves at hangouts — as rude, demeaning and as crude as black urban street vernacular. The movie “Cruising” with Al Pacino shows some of it, but the very sick and pevertedly harsh and disgusting reality is only suggested even in that movie.
Only the more rare of heterosexual fetish sex approaches what is normal among male homosexuals, for abusiveness and the utterly demeaning nature of it. That kind of abuse and despotic nihilism is a habit that colors other areas of life and human relationships, and social structures too.
bvw, senior member of the highly irregular anthropologic civil patrol.