Here a common story from a prison setting, buts it’s common because of the amount of truth. Mother’s day is by far the 2nd busiest mail day in prison (2nd to Christmas). There is no noticeable bump on Father’s day.
Which is not to say every child raised without a mother will grow up to be a criminal. But fathers (or valued male father figures) seem to teach important lessons to children. I have coached middle school football and wrestling for a couple of years on my free time. You can always tell those kids with no father figure in their life. The just have a different view of the world. I’m not sure if I could put my finger on what exactly, entitilement? Seeing less of a need to work for what they want? Lack of limits? Something in that mix. I always try to fill that role with these kids but by that time it often too late.
EXCELLENT OBSERVATIONS, imho.
I think I’d list the following with such fatherless kids . . . particularly boys . . .
—lack of limits—as you noted
—entitlement—as you noted
—less or lack of a sense of a need to earn what one gets—as you noted.
and
—worthlessness overlayed with bravado, bullying, arrogance, prickliness, striking out, anger, rage,
—striving vainly in self-destructive ways cycling with giving up and striking out aggressively for spite and revenge and even sheer frustration and exasperation at feeling so worthless and hopeless . . .
—depression, bitterness, vengeance, retaliation,
—learned helplessness, hopelessness.
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I think your observation about brother siblings is apt, too. Good points. Thanks.