To perpetuate the car analogy, if someone sold you a used car and said it was “new” you might be upset if you found out about the switcheroo. In our country, we are pretty accustomed to the idea that we’ll probably not be marrying a virgin on our wedding night, but in that culture, I think it’s still a shameful thing to marry a harlot.
I understand what is happening, I just don’t understand why virginity itself, is such a big deal.