Compared to most "Goth" types, that IS toned down. Sad to say.
I have a niece that dresses “slightly goth”. I can’t imagine her parents letting her show up at an important event dressed like that, say a wedding?
I guess compared to other gothies, they probably are toned down. I know that fashion is subjective, but they are attractive teens and this kind of attire detracts. It looks depressing to me.