Why do you assume the man is forcing his wife to have children? Most of the families with many children I know the wife is quite insistent about it.
Please see my post - #115.
As head of the household and as a husband (as in the word “husbandry”, which means to look after), it is the man’s responsibility to care for his wife and his children and to be a good steward of not just the family finances, but the entire family, as much as he is able. At some point, there is no way he can be a father to all those chidlren, except in the biological sense. He also has to know that he is quite possibly risking his wife’s life, withe each pregnancy. So, whether she is for it or not, he is to take the lead, and do what is best for her. This is part of God’s command for a husband to love his wife.