Ideally, you have the father directing the family, and you have to follow his direction, unless it is in direct conflict with God’s laws.
When you have a divorce though, you remove that umbrella of authority, and I think the wife then has to look to God for guidance, whether through her church or prayer. And, again, if the court found the child socially and academically well adjusted, we aren’t talking about “abuse” on the mother’s part. For the dad to drag the mother into court over this, I think is provocation on his part.
Yet the court found a reason to side with the father.