Think of the inverse, a white woman marries a black man who hates whites.
What must she think of herself?
And most of these white women end up abandoned with little children who will never know their father. Obama struggles with that one mightily. Double whammy for him - his Mom ditched him back in Hawaii to live with the Grandparents rather than let him stay with her and grow up in the streets of Jakarta. I still have money on someone else fathering Obama - Uncle Frank, Malcom X - who knows. Maybe both Gates & Obama had Mamas who loved the X-man.
plenty of white women do that..usually because it's the only opportunity but some are racial "bridge builders"
marrying outside one's culture is fairly difficult but not too bad, marrying outside the race especially when one race is pretty hard on for the other just makes marriage tougher...not saying it can't be done but it ain't fer sissies
marriages I've seen between white and orientals seems less problematic just because of less macro-racio-cultural friction
i was married to a Brasilian beauty of Leb Christian descent...it was not a cakewalk....now married to a Southern white girl from my same culture and values and traditions....so mush easier, hence were I to desire a black or mullato woman (like one would have my old school peckerwood arse) maybe a rural well bred brown woman wfrom a bonafide deep south family would not be too hard a stretch but a Chicago style brown woman...no way baby...man it's be like Virginia Woolfe with grits and cornbread