I'm going to go out on a limb and say the kid is in fact gay.
Good luck if he's able to change, but I'm not convinced it's possible. He can at least go celibate, though.
Maybe but we only have the gay guy’s word that this really happened and most can be classed as “drama queens” and not quite truthful.
Randy Thomas
July 23, 2009
Today, my fourth day of “staycation” I celebrate 17 years of freedom from my gay identity and worldview. I haven’t blogged about it every year of my blogging life but on the 14th anniversary I said this anniversary date was July 23rd but last year I got it in my head that it was the 24th.
Turning forty (and now I am forty “one-derful” according to a new friend) … ah well. I am sure the true anniversary date is July 23rd. Regardless, it is a great day to meditate and reflect.
To be clear, this is not my Christian “re-birthday.” I became a Christian two months before deciding to question and seek freedom from homosexuality defining who I am and how I behave.
Last week I did a number of interviews during the conference and I can’t remember which one it was where I shared about this anniversary date. But the reporter said, “so… are you going to like … you know … throw a party or something?”
::: laugh ::: I wish. Could you imagine? … oh the fun we could have with that scenario. ::: moving along :::
I told the reporter that no, there would not be a party or any big event planned. I usually just take time to meditate on the milestones that God has made in my relational life.
Homosexuality is hardly something that can be reduced to sexual behavior. It, mixed with gay ideology and a multitude of complex factors, could possibly define a person’s whole relational worldview, goals and perceived possibilities. It can quite possibly even define our relationship with God (example: God must be like _______ because my same sex attractions only afford these possibilities.)
It was all that, and more, for me … until 17 years ago.
On this day I remember the milestones of my post-gay relational journey. I remember the dark nights of the soul, joyous epiphanies as well as the mundane consistency of everyday life that is also life giving. I reflect on the friends who have come and gone, the ones who remain over the long haul and the ones yet to be.
I remember the various friends who have taken a post-gay journey as well. The marriages created/restored, the content celibate, the families formed or healed … and on and on. I’ll remember the two women I have fallen in love with (especially the last) during this journey. I will remember the mysteries revealed and other mysteries to be further explored. I cannot deny that I have seen and experienced God’s glory uniquely manifested in gender complementarity. Those lessons have and will continue to prepare me for eventual earthly marriage as well as symbols of how Christ (the Bridegroom) relates to His Bride (the Church.) I will be praying for my future wife even though I am content with the knowledge that I may or may not marry.
And throughout the day I will remember what it was like to fall in love with God and find my place in Him. Because of Christ alone, I am secure and steadfast. I remember what it was/is like to take my place as a man among men and a brother to my sisters in Christ.
There will also be meditations and an inventory of where I am at and what is on my heart. I will present that to the Lord, seek His wisdom and pray for His will to be done.
So while being gay (for me) was so much more than sexual behavior, I think I can safely say that all of our relational lives can be summed up in the eternal yearning in each of our hearts to “know and be known.” For me, I have found the only life giving answers are to turn away from self-sufficiency and humanistic systems of thought and run toward a sacrificial Savior whom I also know to be merciful and call Lord.
So no, no fancy parties but plenty to think about and joy to share.
Good luck if he’s able to change, but I’m not convinced it’s possible.
Why?
Can people only make one decision in their lives? Only one choice?