I don't think any of the above follow from the Biblical notion that the husband is the head of the household who also has a duty to love his wife and childrens for whom he is responsible.
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the belief that women must be subjugated to the wishes of men excuses slavery, violence, forced prostitution, genital mutilation and national laws that omit rape as a crime.
Wrong.Submitting to Biblical authority does not lead to those kinds of actions. On the contrary, it would make any man a better husband.
However, any man who twists Scripture to justify any of that behavior, well, deserves what he gets from God for it. I have no use for ANYONE who tries to twist Scripture in an attempt to manipulate another's behavior.