Of course, it’s possible that neither she nor anyone else related to the deceased ever bothered to visit the grave again after the burial. But somehow that seems rather unlikely, if she cares enough to show up now with a picket sign. Hard to say, though. Unfortunately, there *are* people crass enough to totally ignore a relative’s grave starting the day after the funeral, and then suddenly get all concerned about it 10 years later when the possibility emerges of getting a big wad of cash in a settlement.
That’s not necessarily a fair statement. My grandma was buried in the state that she lived and died in. Shortly after she died, grandpa came to live with us over a thousand miles away. He never flew back to see her grave, and in fact the first time any of her children went back, it was years later to bury their father. She was resting in the middle of the country and her children lived on the coasts. They spent money coming to visit their living father, instead of their mother’s grave. I don’t think it was selfish at all.
And they would have been outraged if this happened to grandma, even though we don’t make the 1500 mile journey to her grave. We expect her to be able to rest in peace.