It’s all an act.
A 39 or so man who acts like this? Just alot of attempted cover up for a self-hating individual.
I ‘ve known people like this - he doesn’t have the wit to hate himself - that would require introspection. He projects his hatred on to everyone around him - us, the cops, probably “Dad” or “Mom” - both - the people he works for - the past people he’s worked for... you know the type.