During my years of studying, I played piano, had friends, went out, drank to excess at times, partied. But it was not alot, was infrequent and never interfered with the studying.
Your child is getting amessage from you that it is “unhealthy” to buckle down and give up fishing as much. He is hearing you say “he needs a break”.
There is no break in life,,he is way young to “need a break”. Kids who take a break see themselves as weak or fragile. He is 21 and has done well,,I don’t believe in the whole “overachiever” thing,,it implies he did better than he should have.
LIfe is long,,to start “needing breaks” at 21 is not a good idea in my mind,,
I never said his activities interfered with study, his grade point is high. The article said that all the Asian kids did was study. What I’m really saying is you can do both, enjoy life and get an education, one is not exclusive of the other.
And as far as a life philosophy, I do think everyone needs breaks in order to maintain balance in their lives. I work full time, his father works full time, and he works and goes to school. Taking time from our busy schedule to do enjoyable things is not “goofing off” IMHO, it’s just part of living a full life.
Some people play golf, some fish, some shop, some Freep...but we all need breaks from the “routine” of work or study, relaxation so to speak. It’s good for the brain and the body.