My kid’s in graduate school. He has a few Asian students in his classes. It is very important to the Asians to not only do well, but to do very well. They want the 4.0, so they devote all spare time to studying.
My kid’s no slouch, he has a 3.6 GPA, but according to him, compared to the Asian kids, he doesn’t take his studies seriously...on the other hand, he has a job, plays in a band, and does a lot of fishing...the Asian kids go to school and that’s it. They are here to get an education and that’s what they intend to do. I don’t think it’s a good or bad choice, it’s just what’s important to you, but sometimes “study, study, study”, to the exclusion of other aspects of your life is not always healthy.
I was one of those people who studied, studied, and studied as was my husband.
It was delaying gratification in the interest of a higher goal.
We did the right thing, rose in our professions, have been well off, have friends, hobbies, travel, a good family that I took time off to raise.
Our studying was intrinsic to what we planned to do. We did it without complaint for about 13 years each during which time we never lost sight of our lifelong goals.
It is worthy and to say it isn’t “healthy” is to enable in diminishing your childs possibilities.
I would say to anyone, a child, this is why you do what you do. If you choose not to, be aware you are LIMITING YOUR POSSIBLITIES IN LIFE for a short term goal of pleasure.
I can agree to that. I make a good living and when they threw me out of college, I had to fake cancer to get back in. I am going to hell for that one.....