I would have to agree, even though both parents should be involved in the raising of kids, I think the first half of a kids life the mother should and is the main raiser of the kids and that in the second half of a kid teenager the father should be the main raiser of the teenagers. My gut feelings is that most conflicts in marriages start when the kids get to be teenagers and then there is a conflict as to who is going to be main leader and raiser of their kids. Does anyone else out there think this is the case.
Yes. And teenagers, and pre-teens know how to work parents against each other. Honestly, my husband has been right on and the few times I changed his mind, I usually wish I had not intervened on the kids behalf. I do wish he were a little more lower volume with his decisions. LOL
“My gut feelings is that most conflicts in marriages start when the kids get to be teenagers”
I agree with you there. One of the hardest lessons I had to learn was to STEP BACK when my sons got pre-pubescent. They did NOT appreciate any of my help in trying to soften any blows. They actually seemed to resent me for it! Their dad would be “so hard” on them, and then they’d turn around and love him to death. Leaving me perplexed. I adjusted after a while.