That’s terrible, and you have my sympathy. You may indeed be that one in ten thousand who is behind such an eightball that homeschooling is unthinkable.
Even so, it’s been my experience that people in complex difficulties have not truly explored their options. There are often creative ways to extricate oneself from situations, that people never give serious thought to. There are alternatives to buying a brand new car when an old one dies (e.g., buy a used one, or take the bus).
But in your case, custody must come first. What you really can’t afford is to mess with that. You can’t take the chance that the judge might be a liberal moron with prejudice against homeschooling.
After that though...I’d be thinking outside the box whenever possible. When your life is a Gordian knot, the usual handiwork doesn’t always get it unraveled.
Good luck and God bless you and your loved ones!
Actually, one strange note, my attorney, who is one of the best in the state, actually worked on the case that the homeschooling furor came down from on the father’s side.