If your own bishop and the prefect for the Apostolic Signatura tell you not to come to communion - you are being told you are ex-communicated.
You have to understand the Sacramental Life and Holy Eucharist to understand what these men saying these things are saying to the parishioner.
IOW...”just between you and me (nudge, nudge)”...and in the meantime, the general population can go on believing that these are “Catholics in good standing”...no wonder they keep getting elected/reelected