The whole “one parent gets to raise the children and the other parent has to pay the bills” system is incredibly harmful.
If one is paying child support, barring having honest to goodness provable abuse or other danger to the child (and not just Mom said so) they should be able to see their child. Apparently, from what I hear, the system is broken in that regard. On the other hand, guys, keep it in your pants if you aren’t married to the woman and especially if this is not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. That’s where the problem starts. (same advice to girls, btw).