Posted on 02/17/2009 6:27:05 PM PST by Sub-Driver
How sick is it for unwed mothers to expect the taxpayers to support their bastards ? Especially serial bastards.
Forced adoption would of course be wrong, as would forced sterilization.
But there has to be some middle ground here. If you cannot support your children you do not deserve to have them. Parenthood is about you doing things for your children, not your children being your emotional props or merit badges.
I clearly should have read your further comments before posting...
Amen.
I agree to much of what you’ve said.
I still think it all comes down to responsibility and accountability. We don’t seem to teach that much anymore.
Two parent families are best in most cases. Two parents who love each other, respect each other, are best. Two people who take their committment seriously, best.
Even the best parents, still have kids who screw up. As a parent, I would never shun my kid for a mistake, or the mistake of having pre marital sex, getting pregnant. It’s been happening forever. Families have dealt with it. My family has dealt with it by encouraging marriage but doesn’t always happen. The baby is always embraced. Families take care of their own. Some cultures, or some segments of our society have lost that.
Absinence isn’t unrealistic in all cases but it is in some. As it’s been since forever. Before, we used to deal with it within the family. Some people sent their kids away, gave up the baby for adoption, etc., pretended like it never happened. Or some got married right away. I don’t know what the answer is other than families should take care of their own. It’s not the government’s job to support anyone.
Rather than just teaching abstinence, we should be teaching everything and especially personal responsibility and accountablity. We’re focusing on the lowest segment of our society and trying to teach them common sense. IMO. Once the government pays (rewards) bad choices, there’s gonna be people (and in some cases a whole race of people) who find it easier to rely on the government/taxpayers to pay their way. We can’t, or shouldn’t, broad brush those who have always taken care of their own business without government/taxpayers.
We can’t hold parents responsible for their children/teens behavior in the broad brush way.
That’s a difficult situation for sure. She may use the baby to manipulate the parents (grandparents). I’ve seen it done.
It is heartbreaking.
I can see this scenario with that niece I mentioned. It wouldn’t surprise me.
Again if there wasn’t welfare/government help, there may not be this problem. Other problems for sure, but not to the extent there appears to be now.
I don’t know what the answer is. I figure I have no control over anything or anyone but my own kids and then only to the extent that I teach them right.
I do that too at times :)
My feelings exactly!
A **lot** of children could be graduating from college or trade school at 16, 17, or 18. Our government schools (deliberately and maliciously) artificially retard children in their social and educational development!
The problem is we promote students (grade to grade) at the same time. Smarter people should advance faster.
If you want to last very long in this forum, I suggest you let that one go.
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